Risky sex sessions with office lover are becoming too hard work
DEAR DEIDRE: DEBAUCHED sex sessions with a woman in my office are becoming too much like hard work.
She’s so demanding that I’m worried my colleagues – and my wife – will find out. She even started following me into the men’s loos for a quickie.
I’m 35 and manage an estate agency. She’s 28 and does admin.
Our affair started soon after she joined the agency. She is gorgeous and very flirty, and we had a laugh together.
One day, we were both working late in the office after everyone else had gone home.
She started playing footsie with me under the desk, and it really turned me on.
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Then she confided that she was really unhappy with her partner, because he’s boring in bed and won’t ever give her oral sex – which she loves.
I’m married to a lovely woman, but our sex life has been so dull lately too. I have a higher sex drive than her.
I ended up giving my colleague oral sex under the desk.
After that, we progressed to full sex whenever we got the chance. But she started to take big risks – coming up behind me while other people are around and touching me, or herself.
I think she likes the dangerous thrill of almost getting caught.
I liked it too, at first. But she’s started going too far.
Following me into the loos uninvited while my team was outside crossed the line for me.
And worse, she once called me at home in the evening saying she wanted to meet up. I had to make excuses to my wife.
I know what we’re doing is wrong, and I need to end the relationship, but I’m worried how she’ll react – especially as I’m her boss.
What can I do?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve been playing with fire.
Now it’s time to be firm and clear, with yourself as well as her. This has to stop.
You are both in relationships with other people, and you are both risking your reputations and your jobs.
Tell her you’ve loved being with her but this has gone too far now and you both have to be professional in the office, and work on your own relationships at home.
And don’t let yourself be tempted again.
If you’re not happy with your sex life with your wife, think about how it can be improved.
My support packs, Looking After Your Relationship, and Different Sex Drives will help.