‘Gives me the ick’ people slam brides ridiculous request to ask maid of honour to take out £20k loan to fund her wedding
WE ALL want to do what we can to ensure our loved ones enjoy their wedding day.
But one bride has been slammed for taking her demands too far and asking her maid of honour to take out a £20,000 loan to help her on the wedding day.
A friend shared the text message exchange on social media leaving people stunned by the bride’s ridiculous request.
The first message showed the maid of honour explain that she couldn’t afford the wedding costs the bride expected.
It read: “Hey. Are you available to talk this week? I really am just not sure I’m going to be able to afford everything.
“With the outfit and trips we are nearing 20k which is basically my student loan payment.
“I know how special you want this day to be but is there any way we could reconsider some of the events and clothing!”
A reasonable ask for most, but the bride decided that she wouldn’t rethink the wedding budget in anyway.
Instead, she asked her friend to take out a loan if she couldn’t afford it.
Her response said: “Hey girl. Uhm sorry to say but unfortunately not really. And I did lay this out in my bridal party pdf.
“I’m not sure why it’s such a surprise actually l’m sure you’ve been budgeting for this for a while?”
She went on to say she was her best friend and expected her to represent the bride well on the big day, no matter the cost.
“You’re included because you’re my best friend and I think you really represent me well for my big special day. l’d ask you to please just find a way to make it happen you know?” she continued.
“It’s once in a lifetime, Don’t you have a high budget Amex? In a pinch maybe you could use that and figure it out later?”
She then went on to say she could ask someone to help her friend out with a loan of £20,000 with just a ‘small’ amount of interest to be paid back.
But the bride really took the biscuit when she went on to ask for the bridal party for a special gift on her bachelorette.
Dos and don’ts of wedding dress codes
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy editor and bride-to-be.
I’ll never forget the wedding I went to in October 2022 where a guest wore a white dress.
It was ill-fitting, knee length and looked nothing like an actual wedding dress, but that didn’t stop everyone judging her.
The rules on wedding guest outfits – which are annoyingly loads stricter for women than they are for men – are meant to be about “not upstaging the bride”, which in reality is quite hard to do on someone else’s wedding day.
But if you get it wrong as a guest, you do end up looking a bit silly, and in front of loads of people who don’t know you personally.
It’s just not the occasion for your new white dress, as much as online stores love dumping them in the ‘wedding guest’ section.
I’d avoid anything too tight/short, and ditch super formal gowns unless the dress code calls for them – you don’t want to be in a full length sequin gown at a smart casual event.
Personally I don’t like black dresses either, it isn’t a funeral.
Otherwise you should be pretty safe. Technically wearing red means you’re in love with the groom, but that’s the kind of rule most people would scoff at nowadays.
I do always check what colour the bridesmaids are in, just to be safe, after the Spanish wedding where I watched them walk down the aisle in the exact same dress I’d had in my Asos shopping basket just weeks earlier.
If in doubt, safest to just double check with the bride… but if you’re already doubting your dress that might be all the answer you need.
“Are the girls planning something special to gift me at the
bachelorette party?” she asked.
“Just want to make sure you’re thinking of it! No pressure this is just the most stressed I’ve ever been planning this for everyone to enjoy and I really think I could use a treat!”
The post shared to the subreddit, Wedding Shaming, went viral and hundreds took to the comments to share their thoughts.
Some though the request was so extreme that they would just block the bride.
One person wrote: “I don’t know why, but the phrase “I think you really represent me well” gives me the ick. Like it’s a fucking trade show to make the bride look good. Ugh.”
Another commented: ““It’s once in a lifetime”. Yeah for the bride (maybe). That’s an insane amount to expect someone else to spend. Don’t even get me started on her wanting friend to put it on a credit card. This has to be fake.”
“No one in her right mind is going to spend that much on a friend’s wedding,” penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “My whole wedding was less than 10k. I can’t even imagine being expected to pay 20k to attend someone else’s wedding!”
“I hate this woman, I’d go no contact. Just disappear,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “Block her and carry on with life. Problem solved.”
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