I discovered who the real dad of my three-year-old brother is & the truth is so bad I can’t even be around him
A WOMAN has shared her heartache after discovering who the biological father of her brother, three, is.
The 24-year-old explained how she found out that the mini tot is actually the love child of her mum – and her fiancé.
The young woman said that she had been in a relationship with the man, 25, for close to a decade after they grew up in the same neighbourhood.
She added that the fiancé has always had got on with her mother, which was very important to her, as she compared the relationship with her mum as “the real-life Rory and Lorelai from Gilmore Girls”.
Taking to Reddit to share the bizarre story, she wrote:
The woman wrote on Reddit: “My fiancé and I have been together since we were 17 and 18-years-old.
”Honestly, he was always kind, handsome, funny and everyone used to say I was so lucky to have the whole package.
“I felt so lucky too. He always treated me with love and respect, so this makes everything just so shocking for me. I have always had a good relationship with my mum.
Nothing was weird – he was just my then-boyfriend spending time with my brother and me
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”It has always been her and I against the world. My dad died in an accident when I was little.
”My mum dated guys on and off and they were usually cool but nothing really passed the early stages.”
However, around four years ago, her mother, 42 at the time, made a surprised her with some fabulous news – she had fallen pregnant.
Although the mum was dating someone, the announcement came as a major shock, the daughter revealed – but little did she know her life would later turn upside down.
Her brother, now three, shares a very close bond to his sister – and even the fiancé jumped right in to help out her mum with keeping the little one entertained.
“Nothing was weird – he was just my then-boyfriend spending time with my brother and me,” she added.
But one day, her world came crashing down when she returned home one day and switched on Netflix.
At some point, she revealed, her laptop died and being ”too lazy’ to get her charger, the woman took her fiance’s iPad.
After logging in, the iPad started going off with a bunch of messages – and this is when she found out the shocking truth.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
”My mum’s number wasn’t under her name but I recognized the number and verified it with my phone.
“She was telling him she felt guilty and that I should know. He said he also felt guilty but couldn’t lose me and they f*cked it up.
”She said that it was unfair for my brother to never not know his dad, and that if he could live having his son around not behaving like a dad but a brother-in-law. I broke down. What the actual F!”
Desperate to find out more and have the full picture, the horrified woman also came across several photos of her mum pregnant, her brother as a newborn, and other pictures showing his early years of life.
She went on: “I couldn’t anymore. I cried for what seemed ages and I waited for my boyfriend to come back home.
”I wish I was one of those women who can pretend and get things together before confronting the cheater but I can’t.”
Face goes ‘completely pale’
Her man returned later in the evening, and she immediately handed him the iPad with all the evidence – the conversation opened – and saw his face ”completely go pale”.
After being confronted, he allegedly explained how and what had happened years ago when his bride-to-be had one travelling with her girls.
“They felt guilty but apparently not guilty enough because they slept together two or three more times, using the excuse of meeting up to discuss how to tell me.
”Apparently, when my mum got pregnant they stopped sleeping together and decided to not tell me, since my fiancé ‘loved me and couldn’t lose me’ and my mum didn’t wanna lose her daughter.”
Disgusted and distraught, she broke off the engagement and is yet to address her mum properly about the bombshell discovery.
Unsure how to move forward with the news, the woman – who is currently living with a friend – had taken to social media, to ask others for advice.
“I feel bad for my brother since I really love him, but I can’t be around him now, I just can’t.
“I feel like it would remind me of all those times we talked about having kids, I would be his baby mama, only baby mama, we talked about this future since we were 17 years old, so I want to puke every time I think how I was actually taking care of his child with someone else, while still having those dreams. I wanna puke.”