My boyfriend’s Twitter account revealed his secret habit

DEAR DEIDRE: I’ve discovered my boyfriend has set up a Twitter account just so he can look at porn.

He follows hundreds of women with Only Fans accounts on there, and I’m furious. It’s not just humiliating, it’s also making me really insecure.

We’ve been together for three years. I’m 26 and he’s 28.

I found the account when I went on his tablet to Google something, as mine was at the repair shop.

He’d left Twitter open, but it wasn’t his normal account with his name. He had a made-up name, with an avatar.

Every single post in his feed was a pornographic image of a girl.
When I confronted him, he told me I was overreacting. He said it was totally normal for a guy to do this.

He claimed he wasn’t in contact with any of the girls – he just liked looking at the pictures because it was a good form of ‘stress relief’.

I can imagine the sort of ‘stress relief’ he enjoys while he looks at them.

Now I know why he always takes his phone or tablet to the bathroom with him.

I’m no prude and we have lots of sex, so why does he need to do this?
The girls all look the same, with big boobs and big lips – nothing like me.

Is he right? Am I overreacting?

DEIDRE SAYS: Lots of men enjoy looking at adult content – as do an increasing number of women.

This isn’t an issue of right or wrong, it’s an issue of where you as a couple agree your limits lie.

While some women feel their male partner watching porn is equivalent to cheating, others are comfortable with them indulging, while others enjoy watching this content together to enhance their sexual relationship.

The important thing is to talk through how you feel and set out some clear boundaries together.

My support pack Upset About Pornography will help you.