You helped me when memories of my abuse resurfaced

DEAR DEIDRE: When memories of my childhood sexual abuse by a family friend resurfaced, they devastated my life.

I felt unable to tell anyone in my family what had happened to me and pushed everyone away, which made me look like an angry and nasty person. I just wanted to move on and heal. 

I’m a 52-year-old woman. 

You were so understanding, Deidre. You told me that what had happened to me was in no way my fault and I shouldn’t feel ashamed.

Your support pack, Abused As A Child?, was so helpful. You also recommended I contact NAPAC (National Association for People Abused in Childhood) on 0800 085 3330, and HAVOCA, who help adult survivors (havoc.org), and suggested counselling.

And you followed up to see how I was doing, which was so touching.

I followed your advice and started counselling sessions. I also confided in some close friends and sympathetic family members. 

I have good days and bad days but am on the path to healing. Your kind words, understanding and guidance helped so much.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s so good to hear you’re getting support. Counselling is effective, but it takes time and can be painful. 

I hope in time the good days outweigh the bad.