I don’t know if the father of my unborn child is my partner or his uncle
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I had sex with my partner’s uncle, it was meant to be a one-off, but our affair continued – and now I don’t know which is the father of my unborn child.
It all began when my boyfriend lost interest in sex and I felt so rejected.
Then his uncle, who had always been flirty, made a move on me and I couldn’t resist.
We were all at a family wedding and my boyfriend left early because he isn’t very sociable.
His uncle offered to get me home safely, which turned out to mean a heavy session in the back of a taxi.
We’ve been meeting at least once a week ever since and have really good sex.
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He’s been asking me to leave my partner so we can be together, but I don’t have the guts to admit what I’ve been doing.
I’m 25, my fella is 24, and his uncle is 32.
I love my boyfriend, but I’m not in love with him. I’d started to think I should leave and set up home with his uncle.
Then, a few months ago after some drinks, my partner and I had sex for the first time in as long as I can remember.
Soon after, I discovered I was pregnant. Now I don’t have a clue who the dad is.
I’m not showing yet, and no one knows I’m nearly four months along, despite my partner commenting I’ve gained a few pounds.
My bloke and his uncle look nothing like each other, so it might be obvious who the baby belongs to when it is born.
I’m also worried about the impact on my unborn child if I don’t sort this now.
I don’t know whether to confess to my affair, or keep quiet and hope it sorts itself out. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your relationship with your partner doesn’t sound healthy.
Please don’t decide to stay simply because you are pregnant.
But it’s time to stop seeing his uncle and concentrate on whether you can work things out with your boyfriend.
It sounds like you and your partner would both need to make big changes to turn your relationship around.
But if you decide your future lies with his uncle, then you need to bite the bullet and leave.
My support pack, Ending A Relationship, can help with this.
At some point, you will have to tell both your partner and your lover that you are pregnant.
Whoever the father is, they have a right to know and to decide if they want to be part of their child’s life – and yours. Even if they walk away, you are entitled to child support.