My son has become a recluse since his uncle died
DEAR DEIDRE: My son is a recluse barely leaving his flat. He has isolated himself from all his family and friends since his uncle died two years ago.
He was very close to him and thought of him as a father figure.
I am his 58-year-old mum. My son is 27 and he only leaves his flat when he needs to go to the shops.
His diet is awful, consisting entirely of junk food and takeaways. He rarely drinks any fluids, not even water and it is making me so worried to see him like this.
I try to visit him regularly but sometimes he won’t even allow me into his flat. He verbally abuses me in text messages. Some of them are so disrespectful I am ashamed to call him my son.
He knows it is wrong because he will apologise to me weeks later. This whole situation is making me so unhappy. I just want my son to be happy but I am at a loss as to what to do.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I share your concerns. Losing his uncle sounds to have knocked your son’s faith in life. He sounds to be both angry and depressed.
He might disagree but if you feel this isn’t the case you can find help at Young Minds, (youngminds.org.uk, tel: 0808 802 5544).
Suggest he looks at Cruse’s website (hopeagain.org.uk) for the young and bereaved.
In the meantime my support pack Coping With Bereavement will help.
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