My cheating ex wants to sleep with me again, now I want to tell his wife
DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is a real scumbag and I’m torn over whether to tell his new wife that he has been trying to get back into my bed.
I’m 25 and he is 30. We dated for a year just after the end of the pandemic.
Recently, I found out that my ex had got married and my heart sank.
Only a few weeks ago he contacted me on Instagram saying he missed me and wanted to start things again, but I was too wary to jump back in.
We broke up because he’d always been really flaky during our relationship.
It’s important for me to spend quality time together but I wouldn’t hear from him for days, sometimes even a week, because he was “busy with work”, which raised alarm bells because he had a nine-to-five job.
Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team
Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.
Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you.
You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page or email us at:
deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk
I’m a single mum and my son sees his dad on the weekends so I would naturally jump at the opportunity to see my ex, but he hardly ever showed up.
It didn’t take long for me to suspect there was another woman, but whenever I brought it up, he would get defensive, saying he was busy and I was making an issue out of nothing.
Soon, his manipulative ways took a toll on my mental health. I couldn’t bear not knowing if I would hear from him. I ended it, but we remained friends.
A few weeks later he texted me saying he’d met someone else.
He even told me it was fate and they were destined to be together.
I was fuming and questioned why he couldn’t have felt this way about me.
When he recently messaged me saying he missed me and wanted me back it felt like he was finally giving me the attention I’d desperately needed from him before.
Luckily, I found his wife on Instagram so I knew he was still playing with my feelings.
Now my conscience is niggling me to tell this woman to run for the hills as he will never change and she deserves so much better than him. What shall I do?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: This is a terrible situation to be in but I’m glad you’re no longer with this man.
I know you feel desperately sorry for his wife but it’s best you resist the temptation to contact her.
She may not believe you and you would only feel bad for causing her any distress.
If he is still cheating then it’s only a matter of time until she catches him.
The best thing for you to do is block him and move on.
My support pack Finding The Right Partner For You can help.