I’m struggling to keep an erection since I started sleeping with new boyfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE been struggling to keep an erection since I started sleeping with my new boyfriend and I’m becoming increasingly anxious about it.

I’ve tried so many different things and every time, when it comes to the crunch, I flop. It’s so embarrassing.

I’m 32, my boyfriend is 28 and we’ve been together for just over a month. Everything else has been perfect.

I’ve never had any issues before but every time we try to have sex I go soft.

At first I put it down to nerves but then it continued happening.

To make things worse, I’m the first man he’s ever been with, so I feel extra pressure to give him a good time.

While he’s been so understanding, I can’t help thinking I’m letting him down.

I just want to give him a good experience. How can I solve this?

DEIDRE SAYS: The issue is most likely psychological. Anxiety is perhaps blocking your sexual responses, so the first step is to share those fears with your boyfriend.

This positive step will help you calm those concerns.

As you’re the first man he’s been with, you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to perform.

By sharing your concerns, the level of trust and the connection between you will improve.

This should ease your anxiety and help your responses return to normal.

For more advice, read my support pack, Solving Erection Problems.