I hate my baby’s name and can’t stand to say it – it meant something to my partner and he was adamant but I regret it
CHOOSING a baby name can be tricky and it can lead to regret if you pick the wrong one.
One mum said she now “hates” her son’s moniker so much that can’t bring herself to say it out loud.
Taking to Reddit, she shared how her boyfriend had been adamant on the name as it was in his family.
She shared: “I hate my Baby’s name. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting, I am wondering if this is a hill worth dying on.
“I (28f) had just given birth about a month ago to a healthy baby boy, and I absolutely hate his name.”
The woman said her 30-year-old partner Emmett had started suggesting names for boys and was keen to use his grandad or great-grandad’s names of Oliver and Chad.
The woman wasn’t sure but said she would rather have gone with Oliver than Chad although she didn’t love either.
The mum continued: “I HATE the Name Chad, we know a couple of Chads, they are not great people.
“Emmett is very sentimental when it comes to anything in his life that has to do with his family, I’m not that sentimental.
“I asked him to compromise and make Chad the middle name cause I’d rather Oliver. He said maybe but with a ‘no’ tone.”
During the pregnancy, she admitted she had secretly wished the baby would be a girl so she could choose the name, but sure enough, she had a son.
She shared: “After 13 hours of labour our baby boy came into the world.
“We waited till I was relaxed and situated before we sign his birth certificate.”
When the woman saw the piece of paper her heart sank when she said her partner had already put ‘Chad Beau Smith.’
She added: “I have no say in that name whatsoever.
“Emmett saw me bare-down and drugged up and gone through the hardest experience in my life and I have no say.
“I ended up fighting with Emmett for an hour or so and then just gave up. ‘FINE YOU WIN…’ “He smirked as he handed his birth certificate in. I was just too tired to fight anymore, I felt like I just needed to focus on taking care of my baby.”
The new mum said her baby is now a month old and she has been avoiding saying his name.
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When I was a child, all I wanted was one of those personalised keyrings with my name on it.
But no joy, the closest I could find was Rosie, Joseph (not great for a little girl) and Joanne.
Josie is short for Josephine, which is a French name, and I managed to reach my 20s without ever meeting anyone who shared it.
When I try to introduce myself to people, I get all sorts of random things – like Tracey and Stacey – which can be pretty annoying.
Although I have come into contact with a couple of Josies over the last year – there seems to be a few of us around my age – it’s still a much rarer name than most of my friends have.
On the whole I don’t mind it, at least it’s not rude or crazily spelt.
And it means I can get away with ‘doing a Cheryl’ and just referring to myself as Josie.
I’m getting married this year and some friends are shocked that I’m changing my surname, as it’s not seen as very cool or feminist to do so these days, but I explain to them that I’m not that attached to Griffiths as I’d always just say ‘hi it’s Josie’ when ringing a mate up.
I think it’s nice to be unique and I’ll definitely try and replicate this when naming my own kids.
It’s the rude names you’ve got to watch out for, so after nine years as a lifestyle journalist I’ll definitely be avoiding those.
She shared: “ I can’t bring myself to calling him Chad.
“I also didn’t post anything on SM because I just hate the name.
“I also felt like I’m disconnecting from this relationship because after all that Emmett has watched me go through I felt that I don’t matter.
“Am I overreacting?”
Many people were quick to comment on her baby name saga, and were overwhelmingly on her side.
One said: “Why are you with this person?”
Another added: “You can have it changed. It’s not too late.”
And a third commented: “Wouldn’t have let him in the delivery room, wouldn’t have put his name on the birth certificate.
“You carried the baby, you gave birth. Why does he get to choose the baby’s name?”