My man loves our son’s name but I regret it – people react badly but I don’t know if I can face the fuss of changing it
A WOMAN is considering changing her baby’s moniker after naming him to honour her hubby’s love for sport.
The father of the child is a scuba diving fan and the pair named their son Dyver to reflect his obsession with the hobby.
However, while the husband may be all chuffed with their son’s name, the mum fears the moniker will be associated with dive bars rather than diving.
Desperate to legally change the name for the two-month-old, the woman took to Reddit to seek advice from fellow social media users.
She said: “I had my son two months ago and named him Dyver. My husband loves it.
“He and his family have always been diving enthusiasts and grew up with scuba gear all over his house, so he has a major soft spot for the name.
”I’ve always been on the fence about it, but I had no better ideas for naming him so I went along with Dyver.
“I’m aware many people don’t like the name, and people have very adverse reactions when I tell them his name.
”When we picked it we never considered any sort of weird connotation but I see online that people associate it with “Dive Bar”.
Posting on the popular forum, the new mum added she thought it was ”super weird” to know the son will grow up to be ”an adult named Dyver”.
”I’m really struggling. I get changing his name now means he will always have to fill out forms with his previous name.”
The Reddit user was also aware that having the discussion with her partner about changing the moniker will also be ”tough”, especially as they’ve been called their son Dyver for two months now.
”We have baby blankets and hats, and it’s plastered on the nursery wall.”
Social media users flocked to comments to share their thoughts, with some encouraging the mother to go ahead with the legal name change.
One parent: “We changed our son’s last name when he was two months old.
”We had given him his father’s last name, and after a bit of discussion, I told him how badly I wanted him to have mine as well.
“My sister had gotten married and taken her husband’s last name and my dad had two girls and so did his brother, so it was the end of his last name.
“My boyfriend agreed that we should add it to keep the family name going for us, so that’s what we did and we didn’t tell his family because they would be livid and we surprised mine and everyone was so excited to see it continue on!”
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When I was a child, all I wanted was one of those personalised keyrings with my name on it.
But no joy, the closest I could find was Rosie, Joseph (not great for a little girl) and Joanne.
Josie is short for Josephine, which is a French name, and I managed to reach my 20s without ever meeting anyone who shared it.
When I try to introduce myself to people, I get all sorts of random things – like Tracey and Stacey – which can be pretty annoying.
Although I have come into contact with a couple of Josies over the last year – there seems to be a few of us around my age – it’s still a much rarer name than most of my friends have.
On the whole I don’t mind it, at least it’s not rude or crazily spelt.
And it means I can get away with ‘doing a Cheryl’ and just referring to myself as Josie.
I’m getting married this year and some friends are shocked that I’m changing my surname, as it’s not seen as very cool or feminist to do so these days, but I explain to them that I’m not that attached to Griffiths as I’d always just say ‘hi it’s Josie’ when ringing a mate up.
I think it’s nice to be unique and I’ll definitely try and replicate this when naming my own kids.
It’s the rude names you’ve got to watch out for, so after nine years as a lifestyle journalist I’ll definitely be avoiding those.
Another chimed in: “I changed my kid’s name when she was three months old and I’m so so glad I did. Dyver is awful.”
However, not everyone was hating on the sport-inspired moniker, as some said the new mum should be proud of her son’s name.
One wrote: “If you are weird about it then people will react in kind. Be proud of the name, your son and how much joy that name brought to your husband.
”Maybe when the next baby comes along you’ll be able to pick the name yourself.”