When I was caught between my partner and my son, you helped me through
DEAR DEIDRE: CAUGHT between my partner and my son, I was in turmoil.
Although I loved my partner, he didn’t get on with my son from my previous relationship, and I found myself constantly caught between them.
I’m 44 and my partner is 48. My son is 15 and lives with his dad.
At the time I first wrote, my relationship with my partner had soured because he’d found out I’d lied to him about my son’s drinking – which I did to protect my son.
He stopped trusting me and became controlling and nasty, leading me to leave.
We then got back together but my son said if I stayed with my partner he’d stop speaking to me.
You were so understanding and helpful, and wrote back to me several times, as the situation developed.
You suggested counselling, and sent me support packs, including Standing Up For Yourself.
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When I finally decided to put my son first and leave the relationship for good, you reassured me I’d made the right choice for me, and helped me to deal with my sadness.
I’m so grateful, Deidre.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You made a very difficult, brave decision.
By prioritising your child you have given him the best chance and safeguarded that important relationship. Sometimes love isn’t always enough to make a romantic relationship healthy.