My man’s having an affair but I’m ok with it – everyone says I deserve better but there’s a reason I’ll never leave him
A WOMAN has revealed her husband is having an affair and she isn’t bothered by it.
She explained she loves her husband “like a brother” and although they are married, doesn’t admire him romantically.
As a result, the anonymous woman confessed she doesn’t mind that he has found someone else whom he has feelings for.
The woman took to social media to open up on her situation, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on the r/offmychest thread, under the username @efficient_East_9413, the woman titled her post ‘My husband is having an affair and I’m OK with it’.
She then explained: “My husband Frank is the most caring, loving and attentive man I’ve ever known.
“Problem is, I love him like a friend or a brother. I care for him, I want him to be happy, but I don’t love him romantically.
“He knew this and he still married me to save me from my abusive family.
“He did hope I’d get feelings for him, but I never did – at least in the romantic sense.
“We are great partners otherwise, in life and business (we set up our own business), and I enjoy having sex with him.”
The Reddit user confessed she isn’t keen on getting a divorce and as a result, is accepting of the fact he’s developed feelings for another woman.
She continued: “We talked about the possibility of a divorce, but I never wanted one.
“I’m perfectly fine the way things are and a divorce, even the most amicable, would bring problems to our business and life I really don’t need at the moment.
“But that said, I didn’t want to make the man who literally saved my life feel in a cage, and so I gave him the freedom to be in a relationship with other women.
“For two years he didn’t do anything, but three months ago he came to me and confessed there’s a woman he’s developing feelings for and who reciprocated him.
“He was feeling ashamed about this, I hugged him tight and reminded him that I want this for him and I want him to have a partner who loves him the way he loves them. It feels so fine.
I care for him, I want him to be happy, but I don’t love him romantically
Reddit user
“I was afraid he’d neglect me from then on, but he’s as attentive, affectionate and caring as ever, and I can see this relationship is really doing him good.
“She knows he’s married and she’s fine with it, and although I never wanted to meet her I had some little detective work done on her and by all accounts she is a good, well-adjusted woman.”
What is an open relationship?
An open relationship means having more than one sexual partner at the same time.
Both parties in the relationship agree to be non-exclusive and one or both parties engages in sexual activities outside the relationship.
If one or both parties engage in sexual relationships without an agreement, this would be classed as cheating.
Other names for an open relationship are polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.
The woman shared that she is happy that her man is now being fulfilled, as she concluded: “So I’m not worried about her hurting Frank or turning him against me.
“She’s not interested in marriage, which is exactly what I needed.
“Frank is happy, and this makes me happy in turn. I told him I would be open to discuss separation (not divorce) if his relationship with this woman gets more serious. But things are fine now.”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users were left gobsmacked by the woman’s claims and flocked to the comments to share their thoughts – with many hailing the woman’s situation as an ‘open marriage’.
One person said: “That’s not an affair, that’s an open marriage.”
Let Frank leave and have a fulfilling marriage
Social media user
Another added: “Girl, it’s not an affair. You agreed to an open marriage. I’m glad it’s working out for you both.”
A third commented: “Let Frank leave and have a fulfilling marriage. You can still be business partners and friends.”
At the same time, someone else posted: “Please don’t say you love him like a brother and enjoy sex with him in the same post. That’s just weird.”