My older boyfriend sent me a list of things I did wrong after I lost my virginity- ‘get better at shaving’ was one
A WOMAN has been left distraught after her boyfriend sent her a list of things that she did wrong after sex.
The 20-year-old revealed that the list was sent to her after she lost her virginity to her boyfriend, who is 15 years older, and added that she is now afraid to be intimate with him again.
Taking to Reddit, the woman revealed that the sex was awkward and clumsy, but said that she expected it to be, as she was really nervous.
However, when she woke up the next day, she received a disgusting text from her partner, with a list of criticisms.
The text read: “1. Be sexier. Don’t be so quiet. Moan and scream.
“2. Your head game needs a LOT of work. Look it up.
“3. Don’t act awkward. You’re not a virgin anymore so don’t act like it.
“4. You need to get better at shaving
“5. Don’t tell a guy to stop when he’s getting into it. It ruins the mood
“6. Let me try what I want. Not letting me ruins the mood
“7. Don’t be shy. It’s not sexy.”
The woman said that she is “not against” being told how she can do things better, as she knew she wasn’t going to be great the first time.
However, she added: “I just don’t really like the way he did it.
“I would have preferred being told face-to-face and in a more gentle manner.”
“I felt blindsided by this text and now the thought of us having sex again makes me feel more self-conscious.”
The woman revealed that she is now terrified that if she they have sex again, she will wake up to more texts.
How to report a sexual assault
- Contact a doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery.
- Contact a voluntary organisation, such as Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, Victim Support, The Survivors Trust or Male Survivors Partnership.
- Call the 24-hour freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge, on 0808 2000 247.
- Speak to the rape and sexual abuse support line run by Rape Crisis England and Wales – you can call the helpline on 0808 500 2222 or use the online chat (both are free and are open 24 hours a day, every day of the year).
The post was flooded with replies, with many suggesting that she should immediately break up with the 35 year old.
One person said: “A 35 year of man with a 20 year old is already a red flag.”
A second person said: “You need to be rid of him immediately. Any man who knows you’re a virgin and tries to shame you after doing it for the first time is doing that on purpose.”
A third person said: “Leave this guy immediately, this is horrible.
“He’s trying to manipulate you by breaking your self-confidence.”