Should You Delete His Number From Your Phone?

Sometimes, cutting contact is the only way you’re going to get over an ex or a crush. Sometimes, you have to remove them from your phone if you want to work toward healing your heart. Even though you might still care about them, here are a few signs that deleting his number is probably best for you:

You genuinely want to get over him – and know staying friends isn’t an option.

If you want to get over him once and for all, then you need to cut contact with him. You aren’t going to move on if you keep thinking about reaching for your phone and sending him a text. If you delete his number, it makes it harder for you to contact him. Save the number on a scrap of paper or in your NOTES app if you’re too cared of letting go forever, but at least make it harder for yourself to press send when you’re feeling lonely and miss him.

Every time you talk, you end up feeling worse about yourself.

Crushes aren’t supposed to make you miserable You should enjoy talking to this person and getting to know this person. If you’ve reached a point where your conversations have only made you miserable – whether that’s because he’s treating you like shit or because you realize you’re never going to date him – then you’re allowed to walk away. You don’t have to keep torturing yourself. If he cares about you, he’ll understand. He’ll want whatever is best for you.

He only texts you when he needs something.

You don’t want to bend over backwards for someone who is unwilling to be there for you when you need them the most. Even though you enjoy lending help to those who need it, you shouldn’t do too much for this person who would never do the same for you. If you feel like you’re being used or taken for granted, then delete their number. You don’t owe them anything. They can take care of themselves. They don’t need you. So let them go.

You’ve found someone who fits you better.

If you know their number is going to tempt you, but you’ve finally found someone who fits you well, who makes you feel special and you want to keep around forever, then delete that old number. You don’t want to get upset one day and text them, and then have this new, wonderful relationship fall apart. You need to say goodbye. Put this person in your past for good.

You’re always sending the first message.

You shouldn’t be the only one keeping the relationship alive. You shouldn’t be the one sending the first text every time and coming up with conversation starters when they give you one-word answers. You don’t want to settle for an unbalanced relationship. You deserve someone who is excited to talk to you – and shows it. If you feel like you’re doing all the work while this person enjoys the benefits, maybe it’s time to delete their number and move on.