My sexual kink is ruining my marriage – I’m modest in the bedroom but have a very dirty little secret he’ll think is odd
A WOMAN has revealed that her sexual kink is ruining her marriage.
The woman explained that while she is ‘rather modest’ in the bedroom, she is hiding a ‘dirty little secret’ from her husband.
She admitted that she has been hiding her kink from her husband, as she thinks he’ll find it ‘odd’ and ‘weird’.
Keen to open up on the situation and get some advice on what to do, the woman took to social media to reveal all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/relationship_advice thread, the woman wrote under the username @iseriouslysuck and titled her post ‘A sexual kink is causing a rift in my marriage’.
She explained: “Me and my husband have an amazing relationship. I love him more than air, we’ve been married now for over three years.
“He is my best friend who knows pretty much everything… except for my sexual kink.”
The woman then revealed her sexual kink – she likes reading about something known as ‘sissification’ – a practice involving reversal of gender roles, whereby men take on a submissive, feminine role.
She added: “I like reading about male feminisation. Like… very explicit, submissive, sissyfication, that’s my dirty little secret.
“I would never want him to partake, I like reading it, visual novels, stories and experiences, but I don’t want it in my normal life if that makes sense.
“The issue is, no matter how much I love him; I don’t feel comfortable telling him my kink.
“I like movies and shows with a ‘cross dressing’ feel in my normal life and he says its ‘odd’, ‘unusual’ and ‘weird’.
“He would look at me in a different light. No one knows, and I’m a rather modest reserved person in the bedroom. I don’t want anyone to know.”
But the woman confessed that her husband appears to have his suspicions about her kink, as she continued: “He has caught me more than once closing the incognito browser a little too fast.
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“And he approached me today saying he feels shut out and like I’m doing something terrible.
“It broke my heart because I understand where he’s coming from. He asked what it was and I said it was embarrassing and didn’t give a direct answer.
No one knows, and I’m a rather modest reserved person in the bedroom
Reddit poster
“He didn’t like that and we had a small argument where I got defensive because I’m not ready to talk about it.
“I did tell him it was nothing illegal, no cheating, nothing I think would be a deal breaker for us. I just wasn’t ready to talk about it.
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“He said, ‘I will understand whatever it is. I deal with your weird gender bender stuff. This can’t be any worse can it?’
“I seriously had nothing. That was my time to come clean, but it wouldn’t come out of my mouth.”
Unsure of how to move forward, she asked: “So Reddit. What should I do? Tell him my kink and risk his response? Or do I do my best to give it up?”
Reddit users react
Reddit users were left stunned by the woman’s confession and many flocked to the comments to share their thoughts.
One person advised: “The kink isn’t causing the rift, it’s your hiding it that’s causing the rift.
You need to tell him the truth. Even if he doesn’t share your kink at least you won’t have to hide
Reddit user
“Just tell him. I know, it’s awkward, feels embarrassing but what he’s imagining is likely way worse than what the real issue is.”
Another added: “Be your 100% honest, true self with him always. I promise your honesty will be a relief for him. He will still love you.”
A third recommended: “You are causing a rift for no reason. You are shutting him out because of your fear.
“You need to tell him the truth. Even if he doesn’t share your kink at least you won’t have to hide.”
Whilst someone else urged: “You need to open up towards him and share what is going on.
“It might become an unpleasant conversation but it is one which needs to take place if you want to keep your relationship going. You need to be honest and you need to be explicit.”