I am having sex with my ex at work – it’s only a matter of time before he wants more

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM having no-strings sex at work with my ex. While I’m enjoying the action, I’m worried he will think it means we are getting back together.

Sneaking off into the loos or finding an abandoned office for sex is such a thrill — one night he took me on our boss’s desk.

We’re 29 and met four years ago on an induction day.

It wasn’t an immediate attraction on my side, but he made me laugh and was helpful.

I looked on him as a friend until we both stayed late one day and he kissed me in the lift.

I couldn’t believe how much I enjoyed it. We began dating and I loved seeing him at weekends while still going out with my friends during the week.

Earlier this year he started talking about saving up for a flat together.

That was when I realised the idea of it made me feel trapped and I knew it was time to call it a day.

He was very upset, so I was relieved when I was promoted and moved to a different office.

But a couple of weeks ago we were put on the same project and now I can’t avoid him.

I realised I was enjoying being around him again and I was probably being a bit flirty, mainly out of nerves.

My old feelings of lust came flooding back after he kissed me one night.

We ended up having sex on my desk, and it was amazing.

I had forgotten how good it was between us.

Since then, we have been having regular sex at work. It’s fun and exciting, but I’m scared he’ll want us to be exclusive again.

I would still like to live a little before I settle down. He assures me he’s fine with a no-strings fling. Could he be lying?

DEIDRE SAYS: He might be lying – even if it’s only to himself. No-strings flings are only possible when you don’t have romantic feelings for the other person.

Only a few months ago, your ex wanted to move in together. I would be very surprised if his feelings had dramatically changed since then.

He is probably hoping the passionate sex will remind you of what you’ve been missing.

Or he wants to keep some connection between you.

Either way, I predict this won’t end well. Even if your work doesn’t have rules on workplace relationships, they will certainly disapprove of workplace sex.

It can even be classed as a public offence.

If you don’t see a future with him, it would be better to put an end to sex, especially at work.

Not only are you gambling with his feelings, you’re both taking a huge risk with your careers.