I am having to cheat on my wife as she denies me intimacy

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX with my wife is non-existent, so I joined a dating website as I felt I was missing out.

I made several “friends with benefits”, but I’ve discovered it’s not the answer.

I am 45 and my wife is 41.

We have been together for 12 years and have a daughter aged seven.

Everything is good in our relationship apart from the lack of sex.

I get very frustrated.

I am not a sex maniac or someone who wants sex all the time.

I just want a normal sex life.

I have tried to talk to my wife about how I feel but nothing changes.

I don’t think she can begin to understand what it is like for me.

I know there is more to life than sex and I really don’t enjoy cheating.

It’s not only the sexual frustration that I struggle with, it’s the total lack of intimacy and not feeling wanted by her.

I know what I am doing is wrong and I really want to stop, but at the moment I can’t seem to help myself.

DEIDRE SAYS:  It is unrealistic for your wife to think your marriage can survive without sex – but having sex with other women is not the answer.

Do you think that your wife feels taken for granted? Or is the sex not so great for her?

Kissing and cuddling with no pressure to have sex will start to bring back intimacy.

My support pack, Reviving A Woman’s Sex Drive, should be of help.