My life is being turned upside down by my husband’s desire to work on a farm after he was made redundant

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL like my life is being turned upside down by my husband’s desire to work on a farm.

He was made redundant a few months ago and, after doing much research, he’s come up with this idea. It is not something I feel up for.

I’m 31 and he is 34. We have two daughters, aged six and four.

I work full-time as a teaching assistant.

My husband lost his job at a car factory. I don’t think he liked the work anyway.

He loves the outdoors and likes nothing better than to go for hikes or a run in the countryside.

He has been looking at farming jobs, which are in remote places hundreds of miles from our family and friends.

There is one that he really likes, that comes with accommodation.

I love my husband, but this is not something I signed up for. I have told him how I feel but he isn’t listening to anything I say.

DEIDRE SAYS: Redundancy is a loss, but can also be a turning point.

Your husband has plans and, while this may not be ideal for you, try not to stand in his way.

I know that is easier said than done but it sounds as though he may see farming as living his dream, so he does not want to hear that you feel differently.

There may be room for compromise.

Could he find suitable work closer to home? It may be more realistic, while he finds out if he can make this work.