I’m desperate for my wife to play out my fantasy with my best mate
DEAR DEIDRE: I’m considering asking my wife to have sex with my best mate while I look on.
This fantasy is fixed in my head, I can’t shake it and want to make it reality.
We’ve been together for ten years. We’ve always been quite adventurous in bed but recently, I’ve felt a little bored of the sex toys and a bit of spanking.
She’s 41 and I’m 44. I play five-a-side every week and I’ve got a friend who hit 40 a month ago.
His family organised a party for him in our social club because he got divorced last year and he’s been pretty fed-up.
My wife got flirty with him after a few drinks. They were gyrating on the dance floor and having such a laugh. I’m not the jealous type because my wife is friendly towards all my mates. It didn’t concern me.
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Then the following night, I had the most erotic dream about them having sex together.
I woke up feeling very aroused and nudged my wife awake to have sex with her.
I can’t move past it and I keep wondering what it would be like if she got together with him.
It’s there at the forefront of my mind every time we’ve had sex recently. She even said to me yesterday, “Wow. What’s got into you? You’re like a man on a mission when you get horny.”
I’d love to watch them having sex or if not, be part of a threesome.
I’m pretty sure my mate would be up for it but I really don’t know how to approach my wife about it.
Do I open up to her and, if so, will she think I’m weird?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I can’t answer that but what I do know is that when you bring other people into an otherwise strong relationship, it can turn your world upside down.
You need to be 100 per cent certain that this is what you both want.
All kinds of feelings can come into these sorts of situations.
You say you’re not jealous but have you thought about what could happen if she had sex with your friend then developed real feelings for him?
Please tread very carefully as turning a fantasy into reality can be dangerous. Perhaps spicing things up between you more would be a safer alternative.
If so, my support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex can definitely help you to fan the flames.